What if you could ensure your children have the best childhood by first looking inward?

Start to understand your child, yourself, and even your parents in this 3-phase series with worksheets . 

Children can be exhaustingly themselves.

 

Kids are amazing, but why can't they listen the first time?

As I went into my early childhood development career, I tried using fear-based tools, the ones I was modeled to use. 

When a kid misbehaves or is not doing what they are supposed to,  you can use fear to make them do it. That "worked" for me. I'm a relatively decent human. 

The most "effective" fear-based tool, spanking, is forbidden inside any school system. 

So, now what? How will I get these kids to do what I want them to do?

Positive Parenting: The Myth Behind,

"Just Don't YELL"

 

You can be a Positive Parent and get your kids to listen to you by:

• Spending 10 minutes a day doing exactly what they want to do.
• Saying any of the scripts that have been provided to you.
• No yelling, EVER.
• Instead of time-outs, try time-ins.
• Being positive all the time.

 

These are all great ideas if we were actors in a movie and there was a director close by and saying, "Cut, we need to try that interaction again. Your tone of voice was a little harsh while asking your son to put on his shoes."

 

Being a human is hard, and being a parent is even harder. Not only do you need to be aware of your emotions and feelings, but you also have to be aware of the small human's feelings and emotions, which they have little control over.

 

So, how do parents get through the day without feeling emotionally and physically drained by interactions with their kids?

 

And does it really matter? I mean, we turned out semi-okay humans. Do we really need to change?

 

And not yelling all day sounds like a dream. I mean, I am normally not a yeller, but that is the only way to get things moving in my house.

 

You have found the right place to become a Positive Parent. 

 

It takes practice and understanding of how we work as humans - and having support helps.

"Okay, MegAnne, this sounds too good to be true."

 

You might be picturing a calmer home, kids doing chores, peaceful meals, and bedtimes filled with laughs and hugs.

But reality hits, your kids barge in on you while trying to have a quiet moment, and the picture fades back to reality, and you lose all hope.

You might start asking questions:

Do you have any kids?

Nope, I have not had the privilege of being a parent. 

That might turn you off, and that is okay.

I want to point out that many professionals do not have what their clients are struggling with. Would you only go to a pediatrician that has children?

I have developed my method and techniques inside classrooms and homes over the past 20 years. 

I love to learn from other professionals in the parenting field and teach in ways parents can use daily.

Really, only 30 minutes a day?

A little bit goes a long way.

Yes, if you set aside 30 minutes a day on one of the three pillars I coach clients through, awareness, education, and practice, then,

I promise you will experience a difference in your home. 

That promise does come with a warning; it will sometimes be messy and feel strange, but that is where the community is there to support you. 

What if my partner does not want to join?

I meet families where they’re at, so if it’s just you (whether your partner chooses not to join you or you’re a single parent), you’ll be supported by fellow parents in this group coaching Journey. 

You might be surprised how showing up to do the work gets results that motivate your partner to learn along with you!

But I have tried EVERYTHING...

I know.

I know you have tried everything.

You are an amazing parent. 

Those children of yours are lucky to have you as a parent.

I have good news. There are reasons why what you have tried doesn't work. The better news is that this journey will shed light on those reasons AND support you in transforming your family into a living, breathing, loving unit.

We are not looking for perfection. We are looking for progress.

Introducing...

A 3 Phase Step that will help you understand why your kids act the way they do and how you became the way you are. 

This first step is right for you when...

• You are ready to invest time, energy, and finances into bettering your caregiving toolbox.
  
  
• You are ready to give up excuses and begin to self-reflect to improve your behavior during your child's challenging moments.
  
  
• You understand that change begins with you and are eager to put into practice the tactics, methods, and strategies you've encountered through social media, podcasts, and books.
  
  
• You value the power of investing in support, community, and accountability in your caregiving journey.

It is not right for you if...

• You are seeking quick fixes, scripted responses, and instant change.
• You are easily triggered or resistant to feedback and accountability.
• You expect your child to change before you are willing to invest in your growth.
• You are not ready to commit time, energy, and finances to improve your parenting tools, methods, and strategies.

Having a strong relationship with your children in 20 years, what is it worth to you?

I think that it is hard to put a price tag on it. Many people are selling the next toy, clock, or chart that would say it only costs you $20 - $120 for a more calm home environment. But how long do those short-term fixes last?

Earlier, I shared with you that I became estranged from my mom later in life. Well, during the estrangement, the work (investment in time and money) that I did to mend my wounds caused by her during childhood allowed me to know, deep down, that she was doing the best she knew how with the parenting tools she had. 

I was able to reconnect with my mom before she died of liver and kidney failure over ten years ago. I am grateful that I put in the work to have that little time with her.

I know that if she had an awareness of the harm she was doing to me, she would have sought help.

That is my why; 

I wanted a simple, repeatable method that parents could practice at home to navigate stressful moments in the home without causing lifelong damage.

Having a choice matters...

Some people are okay with how they discipline their kids with shame, blame, and punishment because that is how they were raised.

Others take action and step into awareness, education, and practice of Positive Parenting Methods. 

You get to choose! 

You are not alone in feeling exhausted by your kids.

You are not alone in second-guessing whether you dare to go to the store because your kid might act up.

You are not alone in wondering if these younger childhood years are this bad. What am I going to do when they are teenagers?

There is another way.

You can start your Positive Parenting Journey today and join other parents that have taken back control of their lives. 

 

Let's future cast...

Let's picture your home life in a year, practicing and honing your Positive parenting skills.

 

Your child comes home from school and begins to yell at you. Instead of screaming back and losing control, you are practicing your new tool box.

You realize they have had a long day, and their tolerance for life is very narrow. You remove yourself for a moment to put on your air mask, and you return to the child and connect. Maybe the child doesn't want to talk, and you respect that and sit. 

 

You co-regulate with your child so that you can continue your day together. They take a moment to regulate themselves, maybe there are a few more outbursts, but you allow them to have the moment. 

 

Then, like a quick thunderstorm, your child asks you what is for dinner or your favorite sport. 

At night you lay down and think, wow, that would have derailed our day a year ago.

 

I know you can do this because you are a great parent.

 

Your Positive Parenting Coach,

 

~ Bye, for now, friend ~

MegAnne Ford

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