Fear based tools stress the brain.
Today, when I wrote in my journal- I saw this prompt "If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave" - Mo Willems
When we release the fear based tools we can welcome in the feelings of love and connection.
Today I went on Facebook and Instagram Live to share some thought on how to manifest a peaceful, calm, kind family. You can go watch here: https://www.facebook.com/bekindcoachingllc/videos/578850825930376/
I read and talk about a new FREE guide "The 12 Universal Laws to Manifesting Your Kind Family" You can DOWNLOAD IT HERE:
I created this guide and an anchoring tool to help you uncover where there might be a fear block. Fear protects us, but when we are looking to grow- or say, raise an emotionally healthy/stable child- fear can be like poison.
We can not raise healthy, strong, confident, kind children while belittling and scaring them into compliance. It just doesn't work that way.
I spent my week connection to non-profits all over Richmond- with BIG MISSIONS. Ending the Stigma of mental illness. Supporting sober living. Bridging the gap for the home displaced community. Supporting families grieving teen suicide. I was in awe of the organizations and money going to FIX the problems that our society and the beliefs we hold create.
I shared with everyone, that I too am here to solve this issues. But I work from a different front. I work to empower parents to prevent these traumas from every happening. Because, it is my belief, that 100% of childhood trauma is preventable if we knew better tools to get them to do the things.
When children are young ,we use the tools of shame and fear- because it's efficient. "I don't know if it's the right thing to do, but it works. They get their shoes on." Because we don't know there's another way.
If only everyone knew exactly what fear does to our brain and our development.
Fear sends us to our lower brains instantly. Our bodies start fighting of the threat by engaging our fight/flight/freeze response. Our bodies don't know that it's just our parents getting mad that we're not listening. They just hear the threat and it gets triggered.
When we learn to live in that state- our body gets destroyed. There is a strong link to childhood traumatic events and cancer, heart disease, and depression.
Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, the California Surgeon General has dedicated her whole career to educating adults on the negative effects of ACES.
People who still continue to use fear don't know that there is another way.
They are doing their best. And so have you. But that changes today.
By reading this message you know there is a better way. A way to parent without inflicting fear and trauma. A way to help children who are learning their role and place in the world. You have the awareness now that something needs to change- and it starts with you. Showing up and doing the brave work of removing unnecessary fear from your child's life.
I know that I heard from many of you- the time to start that work is today by joining How to Build Your Kind Family.
Doors open again in July- get on the wait list HERE!
Because our children 100% deserve it.
SO SO SO much love,