Friday Love Note.
In today's love note I want to share a pretty amazing AHA I had this week. An AHA that will 100% change your mindset on how you're raising your family.
Before I share the AHA I want to share more about the mindset work that I've been doing myself. If you've been around following me for a while, you know that I've been writing daily love notes to myself- directly to my inner bully. This practice came about during a retreat where I was in a meditation and all my negative story lines were popping up after a pretty vicious cyberbully attack.
This entire practice has definitely reinforced for me: bullies need love, not punishment.
We can not make ourselves, or our children, feel worse expecting them to do better. That's just not how it works. Real epic change requires support, boundaries, accountability, encouragement, and community to help rise us up. This often gets mistaken as being permissive and always saying yes. Nope, not the case, actually if I'm being 100% honest, there will be tears- probably a lot of tears. Once the boundaries are clear and set and respected.
But honestly, the people who get angry at you holding a boundary were probably benefiting by you NOT holding the boundary before.
Okay, so now on to the AHA!
Parents are master manifestors.
What does that mean?
It means the child, family, life in front of your is a direct reflection of the believes, values, and actions you live by. You've planted the seeds and are reaping the crops you have planted.
I know what you're thinking. "No way, this is not what I've wanted. The constant bicker and scream is NOT what I desire. This feels like a jail sentence."
Which might feel heavy, right now. The constant needing to nag, remind, yell, and force your children to comply or the siblings to play nice with each other is NOT what you want.
So how are you changing the crops?
How are you planting different seeds and nurturing those in different ways?
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So much love this weekend,
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